Friday, 21 September 2007

The Daily Turn On! Nix the naysayer

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Keep charged with positive friends and nix the naysayers in your life. Many times our friends, loved ones, partner and/or spouse believe they are being supportive when they claim, "You are perfect just the way you are. You don't need to change." Or, when your best friend encourages you to stop walking daily because it's "running you down" or because she needs more time with you. Oftentimes, a partner or spouse may claim that your workouts are infringing on "us" time?

What the naysayer may not realize is that you want to change. And that, yes, sometimes you even do need to change. While their unconditional love is appreciated and important, it is equally important that you receive the support of your loved ones as you go about creating healthy changes in your life.

So, how do you nix the naysayer without nixing the relationship? The following tips will help you generate the positive support you need from your friend or significant other.

  1. Take a break. Some times it is best to just spend time away from people who struggle to support you. When you are feeling stronger in your conviction for change or have made significant progress, the naysayer will have less power or influence in your decision-making. And, once the naysayer sees your commitment to change, he or she may actually get on board with you!
  2. Be the yin to her yang. If you have a naysayer in your life, let your positive energy and commitment to success be the balance to his or her negativity. Simply put, kill it with kindness. While misery loves company, kindness will always trump!
  3. Honesty never hurt anyone. Let your naysayer know his or her lack of support is hurtful. Tell the truth and let your friend or spouse know how important her support is to you and how helpful she could be. Sometimes people fear change because they are afraid it will alienate them. Let the naysayer in your life know that his place in your life is not threatened.
  4. Create a code. Create a code word that can serve as a trigger each time your naysayer is negative. Be creative and try a word that will make you both laugh. Make your code word positive and light-hearted. Make it a game and not a punishment.
Remember, change is hard. Don't let the people in your life derail your positive progress. Stay on track and realize the life of your dreams!

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